A good portion of the company that I keep around me are male or females that just have a bit more male energy. I’m more…”dude”. These sort of straight forward conversations are the norm for me.

Current day Cyn is very much a jeans, t shirt, & converse kind of gal. As for my answer? Well, in my mind I’m like…I have huge knockers, a huge butt….you aren’t already turned on by that? You need to see the entire flesh to confirm it’s there? I don’t get it. lol

My 20’s was filled with really low cut tops. Why? I thought it was sexy. Looking back, nope! I thought I needed to do that in order to try and attract male attention. I was really big but I had nice physical assets that I could still show off to appear “sexy”. Major self esteem issues. Over compensating in other areas where we feel we most lack. It also shows what kind of message women have been taught growing up. You have to physically appear sexy which usually means showing skin, to attract a man. When I did that I only attracted men who didn’t value me in any way. Within the last few years I’ve started to realize my worth. Which has now flipped my definition of what sexy is. It’s more about the mystery.

Another answer I have is, “…do you like presents?”

Presents are nice aren’t they? What fun is there in giving someone an unwrapped gift? No special thought went into it. No fun there. But now, a present carefully wrapped…nice wrapping paper…pretty bow…you start unwrapping….the build up…what could the present be??? The unknown. The anticipation. That whole feeling…THAT is sexy to me. Don’t get me wrong, I totally will show off skin…just when I feel like it and however much I want to show. It’s for me and not for someone else to look at me and deem if I’m worthy of their eye gaze.

Do I give a glance down if I see a dude wear sweatpants or a nice pair of pants with just the right kind of tightness…yes. Extra points for a nice butt. I’m also a bit of a perv. Sooooo. Yeah.

I get it tho. Some folks like carefully wrapped presents. Others prefer unwrapped, unimaginative, objects thrown at them.